You cheated on yeahimthatkid?! Wow, you bitch !

Anonymous

Oh hello to you too, you fantastic anon ! 

I’m going to tag @yeah-im-that-kid because I am pretty tired to receive those type of messages. 

I don’t know why you anons feel like it’s appropriate to come insult me about some relationship that ended a pretty long time ago.
That chapter has been closed for a long time, so why do you feel the need to come ask me stuff about that and more importantly, why the f*** are you insulting me?!

People have asked me, politely, what happened. I’m going to tell it once more.

I wasn’t happy and me anymore, it wasn’t a relationship for me. I had a crush on someone else, yes, but I didn’t cheat, I was honest about it.
It ended, I never got with the girl I had a crush on BUT I’ve met my future wife a couple of months afterwards and since that I’ve never been happier.
It’s life, it happened. People fall out of love and move on. Get over it with your insults.

Dear anons, mind your own business, be polite and more importantly stay out of my life. 

Hi, how have you been doing?

Anonymous

Hey anon, I’ve been doing really great lately.

I started my new job mid-August, so it’s already been 1 month. I don’t have any time to take a breath while I’m there but I am LOVING every second of it. I have a lot of responsabilities, which I love and need, and I have the chance to communicate with a lot of different people (doctors, directors, patients, nurses…). I have a 1h30 drive to my work place but I don’t care.

I also bought my own car a week ago. It was heart breaking to turn in my old and first car but the new one is just perfect.

Things have been perfect with my future wife (I love calling her like that, it’s incredible), we are still planning our wedding and we’ve started looking for an hospital to start a baby process. Sometimes, I need to pinch myself to realize that this is my life.

Oh, I also got a COVID fear, so I got tested for the 2nd time since the start of this shit show. 

Yeah i'm that kid uses they/them pronouns. You called them "her"

Anonymous

Oh I am absolutely sorry ! I didn’t mean to mispronouns them. 
Last time I know (so 2 years ago), I was referencing them with the “her” pronoun. My mistake, sorry

How could you move on from your ex? Like I read on your ex's blog that she had a hard time moving on?! What happened and how is it possible for you to be this happy?

Anonymous

Hello dear anon,

I read the posts you mentioned, just to know what you were talking about. Okay so, let me try to explain.

I was the one who broke up, I had the “mean” role in this situation. You need to know that I was 18 when we started dating and it lasted until I was nearly 23. What I was expecting from life totally changed during those nearly 5 years. 18 me was a sad girl who had to deal with her homosexuality, it wasn’t an easy process. I came out at 20, it wasn’t as easy as I thought with my parents. Even though I was the one who broke up, looking back, I was happy in the relationship that I was in until nearly the end. About 6 months before we broke up, I started going out a lot with my friends, enjoying life, discovering things on my own and I also started football, which was an important thing for me. 

I was finally really happy in my life. Except that I realized that I was happy even when I was alone (we saw each other like one week-end a month) and that the type of relationship I was in wasn’t what I wanted for the long term (we didn’t have the same language and even though it wasn’t a problem for her, I knew I wouldn’t ever be able to be fluent, so with the parents, it was always going to be a problem.. what about if we had kids?!). 

Unfortunately, I also discovered that I had a crush on another girl. Like a real and big crush. That was when I thought “C’est le point de non-retour”. I’ve always been really honest with my loved ones, so I decided to tell my ex-girlfriend about it and to break up because she wasn’t the only one on my mind and I couldn’t do that. I have too much respect for that. After that, we kept talking for a while, but we’ve never seen each other after I got there to get my stuff back. 

And how could I move on that quickly? Well, I went out a lot with my friends from school and from football, I was feeling so free and so happy, like I could do things for me, just for me. I was 23, single and discovering the gay world for the first time on my own ! So yes, I had things with girls just for fun but that didn’t last for too long because at the end of July 2018, I met the most incredible girl in the world and love just hit me in the face (and in her face). A week after, we started dating and now, 2 years after, we are living together, planning our wedding and thinking about having a kid. Life can take a turn, I wouldn’t have expected that 3 years ago, that I would be where I am now. 

Am I feeling guilty? No, not at all because I think I was honest from A to Z. I’ve never cheated, I’ve never lied. I just fall out of love and it happens.

And look where I am now, I wouldn’t change a single thing of my past. I know I was happy back then, but now, I’ve found my soulmate and the love of my life. And I wish that for everybody.

Hey, how are you doing? youve been gone for a while?

Anonymous

Hello to you dear anon !

I am doing really great. Actually, I’m super surprised about the number of messages I’ve gotten since I said I was going to look more often Tumblr. You guys are so nice and great to let me talk about what’s been going on the last two years in my life. (My (future) wife is working during my week off so I have a bit of time ahead of me to look and talk with you all)

So yeah, I’ve been gone for two years, I got a bit bored of Tumblr and my real life called so I was doing more things IRL than what I used to do before when I had to be online.

Life has been great, my mental health has never been better, my heart and mind are in good hands and in good shape, I am myself in the best shape I’ve ever been. Diploma, friends, girlfriend, football, family, hobbies, jobs… That’s basically what I’ve been up to

And you?

So wait, you aren't with yeah-im-that-kid anymore?

Anonymous

No, I am not. We broke up more than two years ago

I am now dating and soon marrying a lovely girl I met at my football club  

i finished my degrees and i'm in grad school now, tgetting a phd!! which is crazy and i actually have to be visiting belgium and the netherlands kind of regularly for it (just completed my second trip right before covid hit). in the meantime i came out (100% organic gay), moved to the other side of the country, got a super old super smelly car (but it takes me places so!). again, i'm super happy life's been working out for you and i hope you stick around here! - linguist anon

Anonymous

Wow that’s pretty amazing ! First of all, congrats on finishing your degrees and good luck for your phd ! I hope everything is going to be okay with that !

You came in Belgium, that’s amazing, where did you go? I hope you like it and I hope that this fu**ing covid isn’t touching you from too close.

CONGRATS ON COMING OUT ! That’s so great, I am so happy for you. 

I’ve missed getting updates from you, yay for the Internet !

Hello! So glad to hear such lovely news! Congratulations :)

notacirrhosismachineanymore

Hiii ! Thank you so much, it’s really a living dream, I can’t believe that I am getting married next year !

And you, how have you been?

d u d e welcome back it's been ages!! idk if you remember, i used to be one of your anons (ling anon). you're getting MARRIED????? aaaaaaaaah congrats!! im super happy for you!

Anonymous

Of course I remember you ! Oh god I’m happy that you are still around here, how have you been? Tell me everything ! 

And yes, I’m getting married, how crazy it’s been?! Life took a turn for the better two years ago, it’s incredible. It’s been a real life lesson: never give up because hey, hope really does exist !